Sex Is Great, But There is More to Love

Friday, March 20 |

hold my hand

My husband has been my best friend for 17 years, but we have only been together for 4 1/2 years. The love that we have for each other has been a constant work in progress, but I am so grateful that it took so long. Why? I think it gave us a chance to develop a strong friendship as our foundation.

I was not a virgin when we started dating but I felt like one...

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Gina Alfani said...

OMG that is so beautiful :)

We live in a society where most men will not allow "the friend thing" to happen.

Now that I am single again, I prefer to meet men online before meeting in person so that the physical does not get in the way of getting to know each other.

Only three have made it to the actual "meeting phase" . . .

I don't consider myself a prude, however, I am deeply offended by a guy wanting to have his hands all over me on the first date just because he bought me dinner.

Where you and I are different . . . if I want his hands on me and we have that animal instinct chemical attraction . . . woohoo I wanna get it on relatively fast (after getting to know him first) and see if we are compatible in that way since that is as important to me as the friendship part.

I feel sex and attraction is like glue that keeps two people together. If you don't initially have that, chances are one of you is gonna eventually cheat . . . that is the reality of the world we live in today.

WOW you have an awesome and special love story :)

Great post!

Future Mama said...

This is so sweet. I loved this story, wow 14 years?! Holy moly! We've been married about the same amount of time! I'm glad your friendship lasted so long and that you are now going to life happily ever after!

Ron Ploeg said...

The post is nice. Also they way you are able to express your feelings. You have to consider this. There is always a big gap between men and women. It might sound so easy, but it is the way it is. Men related to primairy feelings and women not. So there is always a battle between the sexes. But the way you descrive friendship is so beautiful.

Sometimes when I close my eyes I have a dream of having a best friend. We sit in the sun on a nice place. We both order a coffee. We don't speak cause no need to speak to understand. We enjoy each others company. That how it suppose to be.

Where can I find it?

LazyKing said...

Such a beautiful story! "All I ever wanted was a chance." is probably one of the nicest phrase I heard this week.
I'm so happy for you

jb said...

"All I ever wanted was a chance."

Wow, I love that. Great story. :) Thanks so much for sharing.


Certified Diva aka Chivonne said...

Yes I have to echo the sentiments of the other comments, this is such a romantic story and I am so happy you shared!

LLnL said...

@Gina Alfani- No I totally get what you are saying. I go through phases , one thing that is important to me is to keep my mind open to new things and change.

@Future Mama- I'm so glad it worked out this way. Too.

@Ron Ploeg- I never considered myself judgmental towards others, I just made choice in my life that I wanted to protect. My honey was patient with me but made sure that I was true to myself and not just a list of rules. Men and woman may be different but I would guess that most women want physical intimacy just as bad as men do. It is just that they are to better consider the consequences at the same time.

@LazyKing- Made you week? I loved those words. I hold them in my heart.

@jb- I'm so glad you liked it. I read you list today, brings back memories.

@Certified Diva aka Chivonne- Your words make me : ) You know how something happens to you but your not sure if other people will get it? I'm glad you do. Thank you.

Buddha said...

For women sex is what you have after friendship.
For men friendship is what you have after sex.
Our priorities are reversed and it takes a while to get the sex and the friendship on the same level.
Very nice post!

LazyKing said...

YOu see, even JB liked that sentence :)

Rebecca said...

Now this is a love story!
Thank you for sharing.

love said...

the best kind of love start as friendships. i've been with my fiancee for 5 years now but we were friends for 2 years before getting together. its simply the best kind of love, not lust at first sight.

LLnL said...

@Buddha- Thank you Budha. I do know that a lot of men could care less about friendship first and it is easy to blame men for that. I am learning to appreciate the differences and balancing firm standards with flexibility. I fall flat on my face sometimes but I am getting better.

@LazyKing- Hubby read the post and all the comments and loved them. It is so nice to brag on him to yawl. I'm a lucky girl.

@Rebecca- Ain't love grand. Who knew that it wasn't just in the movies.

@love- I absolutely agree. I have the superficial relationships and they lead to a major heart aches. I'm really happy for you; there is nothing like true love that stands the test of time.

virgo27 said...

great story LLnL!! thanks for sharing it with all of us. i agree with some of the points that @gina touched on.