A few months ago I watched a thought provoking documentary called Naked on the Inside. The film included five people who had major body image issues. Each person explained what their personal body image problems were: an ex con wanted to remove his gang tattoos, an ex model was recovering from anorexia, a woman was in the process of deciding whether she would proceed with a mastectomy, a man who danced professionally was born without legs and a woman moved to Asia to live as a man without surgery. All the stories were very different but you saw the same vulnerability in everyone eyes. The end goal was for each of them, privately, to get undressed in front of the camera. Each person's reaction to getting undressed in front of the camera was unique: someone zone out, another become very self conscious, but one person actually become more confidence as if they'd gained a sense of freedom.
Is it okay for someone who has been disfigured to be confident with the body they have. Is it denial to look in a mirror and see scars and take comfort. Working at groups made me always want to be my best so that the people that loved there would be able to follow my example. I wasnt them to be confident in their body, whether they where in a wheelchair or were able to talk. No matter how hard I tired to be a good person I always felt like I learned more from them than they learned from me. One 16 years old girl with a tramatic head injury tought me a thing or two about confidence. Because of her injury she had problem with her short term memeory. To the staff that meant we would have to hear the smae stories over and over agian. One story I looked forwrd to hearing was the story of her car crash.