Hurt Feelings

Saturday, August 15 |

What should you do when a loved one actions triggers hurt feelings? This is a question I've had to ask myself recently. Gambit, my husband, is an incredible man that sometime pushes my buttons. In relationships I usually focus on the positives and try to make adjustments when faced with problems, but sometimes that's not enough............Sometimes you have to share your hurt feelings or you will find yourself resenting the people you love.

When someone hurts you, you should tell them right away and forgive them when they take responsibility for their action and proclaim to make changes so that it will not happen again. Its harder to let things go when that when confronted, the person does not own up to any wrong doing but instead continues to press the same buttons. Without an apology and a promise of repentance I find myself reliving all the times when that person has hurt me; I will not be content until they apologize for each and ever offensive that they've committed against me...Yes I realize that this is the wrong way but I don't know another way to avoid being a doormat.

My marriage is one of the things I treasure the most and it motivates to be the best wife I can be. I realize that harboring old grudges will hurt me and the relationship with my husband. So to change my pattern I've decided to share what bothers me ASAP and talk until I know that I've forgiven completely. Unfortunately I'm new to this practice and I find myself still bringing up old issues in the process. Lucky Gambit has become my guinea pig, patiently enduring the trial and errors of my new communication and relationship style. Thank God for that man and for Flight of the Concords; they both keep me from getting too serious by making me laugh even when I've got...

Hurt Feelings

Related Links:

Thank You My Love- Saturday Love
Complaining About Hubby- Saturday Love

What do you usually do when a loved one does something that hurts you?


Amusing Bunni said...

Hi LLnL! Long time no see! I'm happy you stopped by my blog and commented on my latest movie review. Your kind words really made my day!

I hope things get better with you and your hubby! It's hard to express hurt feelings, but they say in marriage if you let things fester, it only gets worse, and people aren't mind readers, sometimes they don't even know they did something to upset you!

I hope you are having a nice summer and things are going well for you! Thanks again for stopping by. I thought you didn't like my blog anymore because i am pretty vocal in my "dislike" (putting it mildly, ha ha, for obama) Anyway, I post other stuff besides that and I'm glad you visited, take care! Bunni

LLnL said...

Thank you for stopping by. Please don't take my infrequent visits personally...I really connected with your writing and have nothing but good things to say. I'm a not very opinionated when it comes to politics so what you say about Obama does not inspire "Hurt Feelings", just laughter.

Computer wows has made me pause and family needs has made me reevaluate how much time I spend on the computer. I realize that I need to take some time to plan and unfortunately I won't read my favorites blogs as much. so please forgive me if I hurt your feelings ; )... but I'm sincere about how much I like your blog.

LazyKing said...

1. Opening up is the best cure in a relationship. Communication is key for a long and loving marriage. Since I've read the Saturday Love posts first, I'm just thrilled you did that and forgave each other.
I'm looking forward to have this kind of chemistry, honesty, truth and communication in my relationship.
2. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ofr linking my blog post. You really aree awesome and thank you for sharing my "love" post. It has been viewed nearly a 1000 times via stumbleupon according to Analytics.
3.I'm honored to inspire you. You are one of my very first blog supporters and friend and you already know that I'm crazy in love about 3L. Your posts are always meaningful, honest and refreshing.

LLnL said...

1. I agree but still learning how to be open. When you ready for the love it will come. Until then have fun.

2.You 10000 hits. That's awesome.

3. "You are one of my very first blog supporters and friend and you already know that I'm crazy in love..." to that I say THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU...I feel the same way about LZ and BGU.

Gina Alfani said...

Hey girl, honesty is always the best practice . . . which includes being true to yourself.

I'm learning how to do this all over again being in a new relationship and sometimes walking on eggshells trying to find my way.

Although our life circumstances are different, we are going through a similar life lesson.