Help- I need advice Okay, I never claim to be the perfect wife, but I wouldn't mind feeling that way sometimes. Today I feel very far from that target. My husband is sick and I don't know what to do. We both have some health issues and because of that I think we get colds and flues a little more often than we should. The problem, my husband is a wonderful spouse. He want to pamper me and spoil me as much as possible. If he thinks I feel sick he tries to anticipate all of my needs and wants. He gets overly concerned and if it was up to him would send me to a doctor if I broke my nail. I find myself hiding a lot of my symptoms from him so that I can focus on other things besides feeling sick. I hate him asking me what's wrong all the time because I believe if I can just live normally I would get better faster. My husband is on the other end of the spectrum. He's been sick for 3 days now and he that's all he wants to talk about. He feels horrible and wants to tell me why. He wants me to rub his back. He wants me to get off the computer to sit with him. He wants me to go the store to get him some pop. He wants me to bring him a glass of water. He wants me to go out and buy some fried chicken. There is the voice inside of me that is screaming,” Get up! … You're not that sick...You won’t die if you get a glass of water yourself… We can’t afford take out…You should never eat fried chicken because of your heart condition... ". I haven’t said those things to him but I want to. What I've tried to be honest by saying a nicer version: You shouldn’t talk so much about how sick you are, don't just give into your sickness you can still do some things, if you need to sleep all day that's fine but please get your own water, I'm worried about money so I don't want to stop working. I think everybody can use pampering from time to time, sick or not. I feel like a bad wife for sticking to my guns but I have babied my honey in the past and I feel like the more I do the more he wants. How do I express my love when I my inner voice screaming that I should not treat him better than I treat myself? I hope this rant makes sense because I really could use some good advice. In the past I’ve ignored what I think is important just to please my man. Now I am trying to bring more balance to our relationship but I don't want jump to the other extreme either. What should I do? Please be specific, I could use the help. Related Links: I Am Woman Hear Me Roarrrrrrr !!
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